How to enrich your marriage

A strong marriage will provide a refuge from the stresses ofdaily life. Here is some good tips to enrich your marriage:

     Do not keep your feelings to yourself. Say ‘Ilove you’, to your partner often.

     Make physical gestures part of yourrelationship. When you sit on the couch, for example, exchange hugs, hold handsand enjoy the closeness.

     Surprize your partner with little gifts thatwill convey the message ‘I was thinking of you today’.

     Regularly compliment your partner’s looks. Everywoman wants to hear the magic words ‘you look beautiful’.

     Make your partner feel appreciated. Say ‘thankyou’ for the little things he or she does for you.

     Carry a photograph of your partner in yourwallet or purse. It will help you feel connected when you are apart.

Enjoy each other – marriage is a life-long journey!

Tips to deal with stress

Women are Wise and Wonderful Creatures!

Lord Byron, the famous poet said: “The great thing is tofeel we exist, even though in pain.” Very true and applicable words!

Women have the ability to be drawn to those who are notafraid to let themselves feel, because they are swept along by the tide ofenthusiasm, the zest for life, the vibrancy, and the joy. No wonder that otherwomen will want to join you, to participate in the funny, crazy, sad andbeautiful experiences of life.

Unfortunately, we can quickly get into the habit of tryingto restrain our true feelings and the sad result is that we can lose touch withour own reality – we constantly try to project a ‘safe’ image – neatly packaged,antiseptic, cool, and collected.

Go and look at children – they are so beautiful because theyare so alive, free spirited – they have not yet been conditioned in those oftencrippling adult restraints. These restraints, if exercised to the extreme, canactually close us off from life.

We as women will forever be happier with ourselves torelease the abundant life within us; and we will certainly be more attractive, beautiful,and interesting to our friends, loved ones, and partners!

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Love and relationships

Love is like friendship, but the emotions are far moreintense than those we feel for friends. Believing that your partner isextremely important to you, caring and feeling warmth, affection and desire forhim or her are all part of loving someone.

Love means taking risks. There is always a danger of beingrejected when we grow closer to another person and share our deepest feelings,making ourselves vulnerable. When we need to move forward in our relationships,it might be necessary to try new things or to do things differently. For mostof us, this can quite be scary. Although risks do not always work out, they arewell worth taking if our relationships are to grow and thrive.

We must encourage our partners to share their feelings andthoughts with us. Love means learning to accept the differences between eachother, and respecting each other’s ideas, feelings, and attitudes. There willbe times when couples will disagree – this is normal. You will not alwaysadmire and approve of what your partner does or say, and you may not alwaysunderstand him or her.

Love means to allow each other to grow as individuals. Youwill not always be able to or want to do everything together and should keepsome separate interests. Some couples seem to merge into one another, but atrisk of losing their individual identities.

Too many are too keen to give in to their partners, just tokeep their love! However, unhappiness results when one partner gives too muchand is always the one making sacrifices. It is essential to keep a balancebetween giving and receiving.

Our ability to love and be loved depends on our sense ofself-worth and self-esteem. We can only truly love someone else if we love,respect and accept ourselves. If we can strengthen ourselves, we are able tostrengthen our relationship with someone.

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How To Rekindle Your Relationship

Have your relationship with your partnerreach a dead end where everything became automated?

It often happens in any relationship - oneday you just realise you are spending less and less time with your partner andthat your romantic gestures have been reduced to a half-wave as you pass thecoffee in the morning. There is no need for worry, but it is indeed time torekindle the intimacy in your relationship.

First things first -  couples need quality time together and thatbegins with setting aside time for each other that isn’t about work, bills,household chores or the children.

Start with a date night. It can even be athome where the two of you have a romantic evening together without any of thedaily routine present. Do not worry about the dishes, the laundry, and the workthat you brought home from the office – those four or five hours are for thetwo of you alone. Turn off the phone; let your friends and family know thatthis is a 'don’t show up' night. If it is possible, break away from home forthe date night. Be adventurous – go to a motel and rent a room, although youwill not spend the night. Let your imagination run wild.

Remember love tokens – those little giftsof affection that you used to give each other? Do that again. If you both workall week, take turns giving the other one a morning to sleep in and breakfastin bed on the weekends. If you like to write love notes, leave them for eachother to find. The most important thing to rekindle romance in yourrelationship is to remember – you love this person and their smile is what youare working for. So, pick up a single carnation or a box of their favouritecandies or even just a movie that you will enjoy – be thoughtful, be creativeand most of all, remember to be in love.

Life is very short. Make the best of eachprecious moment. Tomorrow can be too late.