Intimacy and relationships

A basic expectation of a relationship is that therelationship must provide us with closeness or intimacy.

However, what does intimacy means? It means to know mypartner very well, be able to communicate on a deeper level, feeling safe andto share secrets. It also means that we can be open with the ones we lovewithout fearing of rejection. Trust is part of intimacy – we must trust eachother; even with our lives!

Unfortunately, the need for intimacy is also a source ofconflict within the relationship as men and women have different opinions andviews of what intimacy indeed is. We all want love and intimacy but we do notsee these two things in the same light.

 It is a fact that menand women are from ‘different planets’:

- Men view intimacy in a relationship in terms of power andbring this into the relationship. Money is power for them and therefore theymay show their love through loyalty and providing financially for theirpartners. To be wealthy, is a way of expressing their commitment and caring ina relationship. That is why they are not always able to communicate theirdeepest, intimate feelings to their partners.

- On the other hand, women, often need that personal touch – thoselittle intimate gestures of attention, love, and affection that make them feelspecial and close to their partners. Women are more inclined to demonstratetheir love by means of being warm and affectionate and by expressing theiremotions.

Due to these differences between men and women, inunderstanding intimacy and the different ways in showing it, we need to talk toeach other. If we do not, misunderstandings, which could lead todissatisfaction and anger, are likely to sour any relationship.

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How alcohol affects women

Whether we like it or not, the simple factis that alcohol affects men and women differently.

According to US research, alcoholism amongwomen is on the rise across the globe. The reasons are hotly debated but it isthought that greater entry into the job market, and the stresses that itbrings, greater financial independence, and greater pressure on the home frontare all contributing factors. As well as anxiety, depression and loneliness insingle and divorced women.

How does it affect our bodies?

Women are, on average, smaller than men are;so equivalent doses of alcohol lead to greater concentration in their bodies.

Women carry more fatty tissue than men.Body fat contains little water, so women have less water with which to dilutethe alcohol.

Women have lesser amounts of the enzymethat metabolises alcohol, so more of the alcohol that women consume enters thebloodstream as pure alcohol.

When women’s oestrogen levels are high,such as when they are premenstrual, the intoxicating effects of alcohol willset in faster.

Chronic consumption of alcohol alsoincreases the risk of breast cancer.

Moderation is the key. The secret lies inmoderation rather than total abstinence (unless advised otherwise by yourdoctor); if you are a social drinker and suddenly go cold turkey, you are morelikely to start a cycle of binge drinking. For the same reason, it is also bestnot to abstain for a whole week and then take the whole week's units in onesitting.

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10 Tips To Seduce A Man

In men’s eyes, women would be the amazing creature. Women may be confident to chase the proud feeling. However, when it comes to the specific method on how to seduce a man, many women may be helpless to collect enough tips. That would be the reason why only small group women may keep the fame like super stars for men. Here are 10 tips for your reference.

First of all, an attractive smell could be important stimulus for men. Generally speaking, men would be very sensitive to the specific perfume. A famous and branded perfume like Chanel would be proper as effective catalyst.

Another kind of elegant catalyst is the sexy type of fingernail oil. It is found that men are quite sensitive to colour change. The fingernail oil in sexy colors like brave red or charming purple may make a better effect.

In the social communication, it is also important for women to be in proper and charming dress to show off the special disposition. Classical red high heels are wonderful choices for office ladies easy-going but noble sense.

In the public feast or ceremony, a suitable and comfortable night dress would be quite nice to help women as beautiful princesses. Usually, women may prefer seeking the night dress in pure white, beige, light yellow or purple. Or, some creative design of night dresses would be also impressed.

No one could deny the amazing function of jewellery. A lovely pair of crystal earrings, the eye-catching necklace design or gorgeous bracelet may boost the visual effect of women dressing. How could men deny it?

Why not take a branded handbag? Common speaking, famous bag items from LV, Dior or Gucci etc. may greatly lift up the disposition of women. Such leather bag in sound quality may bring unique atmosphere for women to attract men.

For those fashionable women, a set of high-tech digital item like iPod touch would be helpful to make impressed image for the attraction of men who also prefer high-tech gadgets. Such trend would become more and more obvious in the modern life.

When coming back to the household life, sex lingerie would be necessary item to weak up mens interest. Nowadays, there are countless types of lingerie in designs and multiple shapes for selection. Braveness, wildness and nature could be the best summary of sex lingerie.

Finally, it is agreed that a set of delicious food made by women may always be charming to seduce men for the deep secret of safety demand. If you are good at cooking, nice performance on food taste may help you to get the heart of beloved man successfully.

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Men Are More than Sex and Sleep: Understanding the 6 Male Emotional States

How often have you heard that when it comes to emotions, men are uncomplicated at best? The quest to understand men can be frustrating for women. You may have noticed that your spouse, boyfriend or partner seems to have limited interests – to put it nicely. Is there more on your man’s mind than the next time he’s going to get some?

The simple truth is that in general, men really are . . . well, simple! They have just six emotional states—no less, and no more. He’s not always thinking about sex, but it ranks right up there with food, sports, and sleep.

The good news for you ladies is that it’s not impossible to understand men after all. Once you know how your man thinks, you’re on your way to better communication, fewer arguments, and a stronger relationship. Here’s a quick overview of the six male states:

* Happy – This state is usually the result of anything that inflates his ego. You can spot a happy man by the way he smiles, converses well, and is kind to small animals. Don’t waste Happy on asking him to clean out the garage; this is the best time for both of you to have some fun!

* Hungry – When a man is in a Hungry state, nothing but food will do. Distracting him with something inedible won’t work. Also, don’t bother asking, “Are you hungry?” because the answer is always yes. It’s the degree of Hungry that is important. A ravenous man can quickly enter an angry state without food to calm him.

* Hurried – Focus is important to a man, and when he’s set on going somewhere or getting something done, he’s in a hurried state. This is not the best time to engage your man in conversation. The rule of communication for a hurried man is keep it to 25 words or less. He’ll remember what you said, and he’ll appreciate you for keeping it short.

* Horny – You knew this had to be one of them! When your man is Horny, he’s basically putty in your hands. He’ll promise anything if he thinks there is sex in the near future. You can improve your relationship dramatically if you’re kind and sympathetic to the Horny state – use it, but don’t abuse it.

* Angry – Most angry women can be talked out of it. Most angry men can’t. The most important thing to remember is that when he is Angry, it’s probably not about you. Give your Angry man some space to cool down, don’t try to snuggle or engage him in conversation (it won’t help), and don’t tell him to stop being angry. Instead, try to find out what he prefers when he’s angry some time during a happy state, and respect his methods of coping. You’ll avoid a lot of potential arguments.

* Tired – A Tired man is the opposite of a Hungry man. Whereas everything is urgent when he’s hungry, nothing is important when he’s tired . . . except sleep. Do not discuss important relationship matters or impending events with your tired man. He won’t remember, and it will only make you both upset.

There are a few important things you should remember about a man’s emotional state. Since he has only six, his emotions tend to be intense. He’s never a little hungry or a little tired. He’s starving, or he’s exhausted! To understand men, keep in mind that he doesn’t operate on small scales – it’s all or nothing.

Also, once you’ve practiced gauging your man’s emotional state, he will be more sensitive to yours. He will appreciate that you understand him, and he’ll try harder to please you. A little effort on both sides goes a long way in relationships, so don’t give up on trying communicating with your Pig – er, man!

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Skirts and dresses over the years

The earliest styled garments were draped around the body, accentuating its contours while marking the wearer’s status and gender. In Egypt this form of dress developed before 1500 BC. From the schenti, a belted loincloth that was more like a pleated, knee-length skirt.

For woman, the skirt finished under the breasts, secured by shoulder straps. The styles adopted by the classical Greeks and Romans were looser. The chiton, which formed the basis of the Greek wardrobe from 700BC, fell from the shoulders and waist in folds. The man’s chiton was shorter, but otherwise there was little difference between the sexes.

In Italy, the early Etruscans used ties to create close- fitting dresses, but contact with Greek civilisation led to the adoption of a draped chiton for Roman women and a flowing, semicircular toga for men. In the 5^th century AD the draped look was abandoned as the influence of northern Europe grew, spread by the Germanic tribes who invaded Gaul and raided Britain. From about 450 to 1300 the dress was a sewn, T-Shaped garment belted at the waist. A flared skirt helped to accentuate the bust, waist and hips.

Around 1350 the rise of competitive court societies in Italy and France introduced the idea of a fashion cycle. The dress now became the focus for the tailor’s skill and the wearer’s sophisticated taste. Lacing, buttoning and the cutting of fabric, across the grain all contributed to a fitted look.

The floor-length gown became an exclusively feminine item in the early 16^th century. From 1530 female costume was composed of the bodice and the skirt or ‘kirtle’; the one- piece outfit remained as a long undershift. This form of dressing was worn for ceremonial occasions until the 18^th century.

For more private moments, the one-piece gown had re-emerged by 1700 as the loose, open-fronted ‘mantua’, which was often worn in the mornings. In the 1800’s advances in the technology of clothing production and materials led to a wider variety of styles suitable for particular occasions. The width of the crinoline dictated the fashion for skirts, blouses and jackets in the 1860’s but from 1870 princess line dresses were cut in one length.

By the turn of the century the new pursuits of cycling and tennis had hastened the fashion for tailored skirts and blouses. The trend for sensible rather than symbolic forms of dress-part of the movement towards emancipation - underpinned the simplification of the female dress. From 1925 the short, shirt-like dress encouraged the switch to mass production. It was left to designers such as Coco Chanel in the 1920’s and Christian Dior in the 1950’s to introduce stylistic features that reflected the mood and taste of the time.  

The Wandering Eye

Does your partner have a wandering eye, and ogle other people while with you?

First, it is natural for humans to appreciate beauty in all forms. Just as you might look at a gorgeous sunset, or a beautiful beach, you can appreciate the beauty of a well-formed man or woman.

The question is whether your partner appreciates your unique qualities more than that person, and if he/she shows this appreciation. If your mate is always staring at other people, but rarely compliments you on your own qualities, it is time to remedy this. Sit down and talk about why this happens.

If your partner neglects you in favour of spending time with others, it is time to talk with him/her. A partner should respect the mate over others, and if the choice is a lonely mate or a "fun" friend, the mate should come first.

If you are feeling neglected or overlooked, sit down and talk about this with your partner. Look through the jealousy tips - you need to be realistic about how needy you are, but you also need your partner to respect you.

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