Self-confidence and a Good Body Posture

A woman’s self-confidence is evident by her posture. Your posturemeans the way you carry yourself. Your posture is also one of the main factorswhich contributes to the first impression another person may form of you. Makinggood first impressions can be very beneficial e.g. job interviews.

When you stand tall and proud, you portray an image ofself-confidence. Your posture is the way you keep body aligned with its centreof gravity. A good posture is when you have control of your body’s alignment inrelation to the centre of gravity. A person with poor posture can easily be spotted;they tend to slouch with drooping shoulders and head bowed.

It is easy to improve your posture. The important thing isto remember that having correct posture requires a conscious effort anddedication. 

Here are some tips on how to acquire and maintain correct posture:

Whilst at work

• Use an ergonomic chair that fits and support your back.

• Always sit with your back against the seat,  your knees at your hip level and  your shoulders should be parallel to yourhips.

• Regularly, stand up and stretch or just walk briskly downthe passage and back.

Whilst carrying a bag

• Do not overload your bag and regular clean it up of unnecessaryitems.

• If you are using a backpack, make sure that you put theheavier items close to your back, thus providing support for your back.

• The handles and straps of your bags and backpacks shouldbe padded and wide. In addition, backpacks should have hip straps.

Everyday Living

• As far as possible, try to avoid shoes with high heels, ashigh heels can alter your centre of gravity, which could result in poorposture.

• Exercise regularly, which will help the body becomestronger and develop much needed support for your back.

Whilst sleeping

• As far as possible, sleep on your back or on your side.

• If you prefer sleeping on your side, place a pillowbetween your legs.

• Avoid any over-sized pillows, as they can result in neckinjury problems or pain.

To have a good posture requires daily effort and practise.However hard it may seem, it is worth it in the long term.

Exercise your eyes!

Effective Communication and Relationships

Communication is a two-way process, which involves talking,listening, and understanding. To communicate effectively, we need to be openand honest, to say clearly, what we mean, while respecting our partner’sfeelings and rights.

Communication occurs at more than one level. How our bodies‘speak’, or the so-called body language is also very important. It seems wetend to trust body language rather than words. Once we understand the body’smessage, we are able to interpret the way in which words are said. We listen towhether a person’s sounds angry or sad, happy or exited, and we look to seewhether their body is relaxed, tense, or defensive. If the person’s words andbody language contradict each other, we are unable to trust their words, andcommunication becomes much more difficult. Unless you and your partnerunderstand how each other communicate – both body language and words – you willbe unable to understand each other. Communication can get even more difficultif we are not sure of our exact feelings and say the first thing that comes tomind in an argument, rather than think it over.

Part of communicating is negotiating. This means giving ourpoint of view and listening to our partner’s point of view, coming up with allthe possible options, and then finding solutions that will satisfy both. Thiscan be stimulating, rewarding, and even fun. It involves thinking and listeningclosely to our partners.

Good communication can help you and your partner to becomecloser and build a stronger, more satisfying relationship. It is also anessential tool for sorting out problems in your relationship.

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The 3 Body Language Flirting Tips That Will Draw A Man In

Are you uncomfortable and nervous about the idea of flirtingwith a man? Do you feel blocked even rigid with fear when you’re in thepresence of a man, fear that you might get rejected by him?

You may not be aware that your non-verbal is telling a man thatyou are unapproachable. He feels whether or not you are open to having aconversation that will flow with ease or whether it will be awkward. And thisdecision is made within seconds of seeing you.

I know it’s not fair but we are ALL guilty of the same thing…judgingpeople by their cover. Once you know that it’s not a personal thing but an automaticimpulse that is almost out of our control…then you get the courage to step upand become visible! 

I remember feeling like the nerd in school…involved in everysocial activity but never had a boyfriend. And once my divorce happened, Ifound myself in the same predicament…I had to go back out in the dating sceneand get over my fears all over again. I was surprised at how insecure Ifelt…the courage I lacked.

The one thing that got me back in the game was my body language!And not just any kind of body language but the kind where I consciouslyflirted!

I wanted to be that charismatic woman that everyone noticed.I spent years being in the background with my ex-husband that it was time forme to shine. So first I looked up the meaning of flirting.

Here is what I found…

“Behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone,but without serious intention; act amorously without serious intentions; playat love; coquet”

And when I asked men how they felt about women flirting…theyunanimously agreed that it IS a necessary skill in looking attractive. Theyactually felt like it was a compliment towards them!

So flirting really means taking an interest in someone…beingcurious about what motivates a man in a playful way. And when you set thatintension, then every body language technique you do is coming from a kindplace where it doesn’t feel like an interrogation.

A man doesn’t remember as much the words you use but how he feelsbeing around you. Throughout your encounter your body should move like oil…notension, no stiffness…just flow.

So how do you make this flow of your body language happen?

Become aware of these 3 flirting tips:

1) LEAN BACK

In any conversation with a man, it’s important to lean back inyour stance or in your chair. This action makes you naturally relax into theconvers ation. Leaning back takes away all tension in the body, where everymove or transition will feel like oil (nothing harsh…you melt into every body positionor self-touch).

2) UNZIP YOUR HEART

I learned this technique from my coach Rori Raye. It allowedme to go a level deeper in listening. If you can visualize yourself unzippingand exposing your heart. You’ve got it! It feels vulnerable but freeing at thesame time. You take down your guard while listening so that to remaincompassionate.

3) SELF-TOUCH

A woman that regularly touches herself gives the impression toa man that she is comfortable in her body…she loves how her body feels. So caressyour neck, your arm, your hair…anything that will make you relax into listeningand being in his presence while enjoying yourself.

Within seconds of doing these flirting techniques, men wouldsmile, move in towards me and feel the ease of being in my presence. 

Patty Contenta