The barelegged look

Here are some interesting tit-bits from yesteryear!

Victorian woman considered even the merest glimpse of femaleleg indecent –much more so if the leg was unclad. Right up to present times, nofashion –conscious woman would go stockingless – despite a virtual ban on themby the British government during the Second World War because of materialshortages. Even when supplies of wartime cotton and rayon stockings ran out,many women used specially prepared leg make-up.

The first real attempt to abandon stockings was made duringthe First World War by actress Gaby Deslys, mistress of King Manual of Portugal.She shocked women and amused men by declaring that she would not wear stockingsagain until Germany surrendered to the Allies. In the 1920’s Hollywood femme fatale,Pola Negri went barelegged, and actress Joan Crawford discarded stockings for eveningwearin 1926.

In 1934, after a long debate, the fashion weekly Sketchconcluded that ‘going barelegged is inartistic and tends to spoil the softnessof the skin.’ The British government ‘s official disapproval of stockings camein 1942, when the Board of Trade warned that if women did not stop wearing themin summer, there would be none by winter.

As late as the 1920’s, matrons in Melbourne, Australiadisapproved when model Jean Shrimpton appeared as guest of honour at Flemingtonracecourse hatless, gloveless- and stockingless. Then in 1983, the Princes ofWales attended a Government House party in Canberra with her elegant legscovered only by a golden suntan; the barelegged look had finally won the royalseal for approval. Nobody could argue with that.

Here is a tongue-in-the-cheekjoke just for you:

A young bride tellsher friend, “Paul keeps telling everyone he’s going to marry the most beautifulgirl in the world.”

“What a shame! Andafter all the time you’ve been engaged!”

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What is femininity?

Femininity is created from the inside out and for a woman tobe more feminine, she must prioritize, and work on what goes on internally.

Femininity is not so much about following a set of rules,because rules are rigid and there is nothing rigid about femininity. To startwith, femininity must occur from within. A fake feminine woman will never,ever, ever fool all smart, good men. If you want a good, truly masculine man tolove you, protect you, adore you, take care of you, and worship you for life,you must have the feminine qualities to attract that kind of man.

The truth is, men want a feminine woman. The good men arealso not fooled by trashy looking, egocentric and insecure women who will givetheir bodies and feminine souls entirely, all for the sake of feeling as ifthey are enough, or worthy, for a night.

A truly feminine woman is not trapped in her head. She isfree. Women are nurturers. Truly beautiful, feminine women take care of things.

Love hurts

In order to be more feminine, a woman must allow herself tobe vulnerable. If you are not vulnerable, you do not need a man. It isimportant to be aware that if a man is masculine at his core, then it isimportant that he does feel needed to an extent. A woman can hold her own andmake her own money – being feminine is just more about respecting his role andallowing him to do certain things for you.

Breaking down hate

The freedom of a feminine woman is in her ability to bespontaneous and to go by feeling. This is the opposite of being indifferent. Afeminine woman is not always about what’s ‘realistic’, she’s more able to feel,and she empathizes with humans and all living things.

Tips to be feminine

Use music: Musicis one of the best ways for changing your state and influencing your mood.Listen to music that makes you feel grateful, soft, peaceful, happy, serene,joyful, and free. You can even dance to it in your own home.

Accentuate theattributes you have that are the opposite of a man’s: It’s in the way yousit, the way you talk, the words you use, how you use your hands, how yousmile, how you touch others, how you greet people (words and the physicalaspects). A lot of women stand and walk like men, drink like a man would,unknowingly. They stand with their hands on their hips the way a man would doit, and sway their arms and legs in the way that a strong and powerful manwould do.

Work-out onaccentuating and improving every feminine aspect of your body: Thisincludes the buttocks, the legs, the tummy, and the breasts (weights to helpthe breasts defy gravity. Do smaller weights with more repetitions that keepyour arms toned, rather than strong looking.

Feminine women aredelicate: Any jewellery that is overly harsh starts to take away from thewoman and draw attention to fashion.

Men go crazy over awoman who can give them a genuine smile: It does not matter what herphysical attributes are, if you give a man a genuine, happy smile and look himin the eye – he is going to be profoundly affected. Ask any man who is in touchwith his masculinity whether a smile is extremely important in a woman and hewill say yes.

Appreciate men forbeing men: Always show appreciation for a masculine man.

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Romance Yourself

Men are not usually the most romanticcreatures. Usually it takes a lot of prompting and training for them to become romanticand to make him realize that you need some romance in your life.

One way to get him to take notice is toromance yourself. You deserve it and if he is not going to do for you, you cando it for yourself. Start out by getting yourself into shape both physicallyand mentally, change what you can and want to change and learn to accept thethings that cannot be changed.

Every woman wants to be a sexy womandeserving of love and romance. Get comfortable with your body and decide thatyou want to have a great love life. Get a makeover; change your hairstyle andeven your hair colour. Pamper yourself - Go for a day at the spa.

Exercise for a strong healthy and sexybody. Take dance classes that really get you moving like a Latin or salsa classor a belly dancing class, something with moves you can use in the bedroom. Even,learn how to be like a stripper that enchants and captivates men. Then goshopping and buy some new stylish and sexy clothing, especially sexy underwearand lingerie.

You should start to feel the changes withinyourself. You should be becoming more confident and feeling sexy. He shouldstart to notice the changes in you too. Maybe he will wonder what is going on. Makehim wonder. Buy yourself flowers, send yourself gifts. Let him wonder ifsomeone else sent them to you. Set the scene for romance with candles, wine anda special dinner for two. I hope that by now he is taking the hint and sendingsome of his own style of romance your way.

If he is still not catching on do not giveup yet. Make the first move with him. Most men love nothing more than havingtheir woman desire them and come after them. Sometimes the hunter really enjoysbecoming the hunted. This will surely make him take notice. Be a littleaggressive with him.

By learning to romance yourself and putyour needs and desires at the top of the list, romance and passion from yourpartner are sure to follow.

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Anniversary gifts

Particular wedding anniversaries have come to be associatedin the Western world with particular types of gift. The choice of gift variesslightly in different countries. This list is one of the most common:

First:  Cotton

Second: Paper

Third: Leather

Fourth:  Fruit, flowers

Fifth: Wooden

Sixth: Sugar

Seventh: Wool,copper

Eighth: Bronze,pottery

Ninth: Pottery,willow

Tenth: Tin

Eleventh: Steel

Twelfth: Silk,linen

Thirteenth: Lace

Fourteenth: Ivory

Fifteenth:  Crystal

Twentieth: China

Twenty-fifth: Silver

Thirtieth: Pearl

Fortieth:  Ruby

Fiftieth: Golden

Sixtieth: Diamond

Seventieth:Platinum

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Things you should say yes to

1. The specials your restaurant waiter suggests - trysomething new and broaden your mind!

2. A genuine friend in genuine need. Not the leeches inlife, but the ones you know would do the same for you.

3. An elderly neighbour - you will be old yourself one day.

4. Let’s try…’ When your partner suggests something to spiceup sex that’s safe, fun and legal.

5. ‘Fancy a drink?’ If you are unattached an a nice, but notnecessarily’ perfect ‘man shows an interest in you. He may be more perfect thanyou think, once you get to know him.

6. ‘Would you like to try this perfume/have a free makeover,Madam?’ One of the rules of womanhood: beauty freebies should never be refused.

7. ‘Let us see…a film/ play/musical.’ Get your entertainmentaway from the TV, no matter how loudly your inner voice shouts, ‘Hey, let’s getout!’

8. ‘Can you hold Jack for a while?’ When your exhaustedfriend needs a break from her new born baby.

9. ‘Can I come and stay for a few days?’ when your newlybereaved mom or dad needs their family more than ever.

10. ‘Let’s dance!’ Especially when spoken by the man you love,or by your children.

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