Have a healthier sex life

The best relationships take time, patience, and commitment. Thisincludes your sex life with your partner.

Here are some valuable thoughts on sex:

Always make some time for intimacy. Teach your children torespect your time alone when you are in your bedroom. Install a lock on thedoor if needed. Frequent sex may not be absolutely essential for a healthymarriage, but emotional intimacy is.

Be realistic. Too often people think that in a goodrelationship sexual desire should be as strong after several years as it was atthe beginning. Even among happily married couples, desire will waneoccasionally. However, this need not be a problem. In fact, many happilymarried couples find greater emotional depth and satisfaction in sex as timegoes on.

Both partners should be equal active in initiating sex.

Remember; keep all your battles out of the bedroom.

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How To Rekindle Your Relationship

Have your relationship with your partnerreach a dead end where everything became automated?

It often happens in any relationship - oneday you just realise you are spending less and less time with your partner andthat your romantic gestures have been reduced to a half-wave as you pass thecoffee in the morning. There is no need for worry, but it is indeed time torekindle the intimacy in your relationship.

First things first -  couples need quality time together and thatbegins with setting aside time for each other that isn’t about work, bills,household chores or the children.

Start with a date night. It can even be athome where the two of you have a romantic evening together without any of thedaily routine present. Do not worry about the dishes, the laundry, and the workthat you brought home from the office – those four or five hours are for thetwo of you alone. Turn off the phone; let your friends and family know thatthis is a 'don’t show up' night. If it is possible, break away from home forthe date night. Be adventurous – go to a motel and rent a room, although youwill not spend the night. Let your imagination run wild.

Remember love tokens – those little giftsof affection that you used to give each other? Do that again. If you both workall week, take turns giving the other one a morning to sleep in and breakfastin bed on the weekends. If you like to write love notes, leave them for eachother to find. The most important thing to rekindle romance in yourrelationship is to remember – you love this person and their smile is what youare working for. So, pick up a single carnation or a box of their favouritecandies or even just a movie that you will enjoy – be thoughtful, be creativeand most of all, remember to be in love.

Life is very short. Make the best of eachprecious moment. Tomorrow can be too late.

Communication and Romantic Intimacy

Why do some people seem to get everything they want in the way of romantic intimacy, while others cannot get even what they need? Being sexually successful is not a matter of how you look, how old you are, or how much you earn. It is more about your attitude, manners, and social skills.

Here are 10 common sense tips on negotiating your way to great romantic intimacy.

1. First impressions count. Look and act your best. This is not the time to beat yourself up about your imperfections or to take out your frustrations with the world. This is the time to let a partner know that you are ready and able to have a fun time.

2. Pay attention. Take a few minutes to absorb some information about your potential partner. Get a sense of the kind of person she or he is – shy or aggressive, extroverted, or reserved? Then fine-tune your approach to him or her. People are not interchangeable; so do not treat everyone exactly the same way.

3. Be complimentary. Find something about the person that you like. Does he or she have nice hair or lovely eyes, a great figure or beautiful hands? Are they spiritual, intelligent, or funny? Learning to appreciate people’s qualities, and letting them know you do, is key to success in your romantic endeavours.

4. Leave the negativity at home. The kiss of death is when you bring tired old baggage into play. Romantic intimacy is about pleasure, fun, relaxation, healing, and connecting with another human being. Do not talk about your bad relationships or gas prices, bar fights or work frustrations. Focus on the good times you can have with this person, and not the bad times you have had with others.

5. Flirt. A whole book could be written on the subject, but suffice to say that flirting puts people in a good mood and warms them up sexually. Flirting includes can include paying compliments, making teasing comments or light-hearted jokes, and talking about fantasies or things you would like to do together. It does NOT include demeaning jokes, insults, or obscene language.

6. Ask for what you want. Asking does not guarantee you will get it, but it certainly improves your chances. Show or tell your lover what things excite you the most. If your partner needs some convincing, take baby steps towards your ultimate goal.

7. Control yourself. The difference between immature romantic intimacy and adult romantic intimacy is that adults learn to control their impulses. Unfortunately, way too many adults keep acting sex-crazed and immature long after it is acceptable or attractive. Sexual excitement is no excuse for trying to force someone to do things that make him or her uncomfortable. When your partner says "no" to something, accept the limit and gracefully and move on to something else. Rude or abusive behaviour are not appreciated or tolerated.

8. Don’t confuse fantasy with reality. You meet an incredibly desirable person and, in your mind, you just know you would have mind-blowing romantic intimacy together. You are lucky if you do. Do not ruin your chances with them by assuming that YOUR fantasy obligates THEM to fulfil it. Instead, feel them out – are they getting the same vibes? Does your idea turn them on as much as it does you? Talk it over before trying to talk them into it.

9. Set limits on both sides and stick to them. Communicate clearly about what you like and dislike, what words or fantasies are exciting and which ones are not. Remember that what is hot to one person could be like a cold shower to another. If your partner lets you know that he or she does not want to act out a particular, fantasy or engage in a particular act, do not try to force them into it. You can always find someone else who is more compatible with you and will be delighted to indulge you.

10. Be polite. Some of the sexiest words in any language are "Please," "thank you," and "you’re welcome." No matter how raunchy the situation, politeness shows that you respect your partners and value their company, and it makes you look classy. Your positive energy will make them trust you more and grow more open to trying new and exciting things with you.

Acknowledgement: KissMeGoodnight.com

How to Increase Your Level of Intimacy

Just because you have been together for so long you can now allow passion and romance to die their natural death. In fact, one of the best-kept secrets among long-term couples is intimacy. But how do you exactly encourage it?

Make an effort to do so

Don't be trapped into a fairy-tale kind of romance. If you feel like the intimacy is already dying, you should step up a little bit and make an effort. There are many ways on how you can do that. Usually, you just try to bring back the old days. Remember those days when you still feel romantically involved. Recreate them.

Do look good

Your appearance will surely play a huge role in increasing intimacy. Whether you like it or not, men and women are still motivated in what they see. If they find you pleasing, they will feel more attracted and aroused. Getting intimate will be so much easier.

Check yourself

Do you feel confident about yourself? Are there certain things you need to change? If you're having trouble getting back your old self, you can make use of subliminal messages. Some of these subliminal messages can be the following:

- I need to look good for my partner and myself.

- I deserve to be given love and attention.

- I will do my best to be worthy of attention.

- I feel good about myself.

- I have enough power to make myself look and feel better.

You can say these subliminal messages or affirmations first thing in the morning and before you go to bed. Allow them to provide you with good mood and motivation.

Find time for the both of you

This is especially true when you already have children. The kids have already become a very lame excuse for couples to not do something together anymore. Getting together as a couple doesn't have to drive you away from your children for such a long time. You can just take a 15-minute walk in the park or watch a late-night movie when the children are already asleep. Hire a baby-sitter while you go out on a date in a fancy restaurant at least once a week.

Do a unique activity

Maybe both of you are trapped in a routine. If this happens the relationship gets very boring. Never let excitement get away. Do something both of you haven't really done before. It would be great to explore such activity together and create new memories.

Sit down and talk

A simple chat session can already be a very powerful means of bringing back the intimacy. Be more emotionally attached. Talk just about anything. You can even talk about your apprehensions. There's a possibility your partner is also feeling the same way too. Together you can figure out the best course of action to bring back the spark and save the relationship.

Like tango, it takes two to keep a relationship alive and together. If you want to bring the intimacy level higher, both should have concerted efforts to do so.

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Communication and Romantic Intimacy

Why do some people seem to get everything they want in the way of romantic intimacy, while others cannot get even what they need? Being sexually successful is not a matter of how you look, how old you are, or how much you earn. It is more about your attitude, manners, and social skills.

Here are 10 common sense tips on negotiating your way to great romantic intimacy.

1. First impressions count. Look and act your best. This is not the time to beat yourself up about your imperfections or to take out your frustrations with the world. This is the time to let a partner know that you are ready and able to have a fun time.

2. Pay attention. Take a few minutes to absorb some information about your potential partner. Get a sense of the kind of person she or he is – shy or aggressive, extroverted, or reserved? Then fine-tune your approach to him or her. People are not interchangeable; so do not treat everyone exactly the same way.

3. Be complimentary. Find something about the person that you like. Does he or she have nice hair or lovely eyes, a great figure or beautiful hands? Are they spiritual, intelligent, or funny? Learning to appreciate people’s qualities, and letting them know you do, is key to success in your romantic endeavours.

4. Leave the negativity at home. The kiss of death is when you bring tired old baggage into play. Romantic intimacy is about pleasure, fun, relaxation, healing, and connecting with another human being. Do not talk about your bad relationships or gas prices, bar fights or work frustrations. Focus on the good times you can have with this person, and not the bad times you have had with others.

5. Flirt. A whole book could be written on the subject, but suffice to say that flirting puts people in a good mood and warms them up sexually. Flirting includes can include paying compliments, making teasing comments or light-hearted jokes, and talking about fantasies or things you would like to do together. It does NOT include demeaning jokes, insults, or obscene language.

6. Ask for what you want. Asking does not guarantee you will get it, but it certainly improves your chances. Show or tell your lover what things excite you the most. If your partner needs some convincing, take baby steps towards your ultimate goal.

7. Control yourself. The difference between immature romantic intimacy and adult romantic intimacy is that adults learn to control their impulses. Unfortunately, way too many adults keep acting sex-crazed and immature long after it is acceptable or attractive. Sexual excitement is no excuse for trying to force someone to do things that make him or her uncomfortable. When your partner says "no" to something, accept the limit and gracefully and move on to something else. Rude or abusive behaviour are not appreciated or tolerated.

8. Don’t confuse fantasy with reality. You meet an incredibly desirable person and, in your mind, you just know you would have mind-blowing romantic intimacy together. You are lucky if you do. Do not ruin your chances with them by assuming that YOUR fantasy obligates THEM to fulfil it. Instead, feel them out – are they getting the same vibes? Does your idea turn them on as much as it does you? Talk it over before trying to talk them into it.

9. Set limits on both sides and stick to them. Communicate clearly about what you like and dislike, what words or fantasies are exciting and which ones are not. Remember that what is hot to one person could be like a cold shower to another. If your partner lets you know that he or she does not want to act out a particular, fantasy or engage in a particular act, do not try to force them into it. You can always find someone else who is more compatible with you and will be delighted to indulge you.

10. Be polite. Some of the sexiest words in any language are "Please," "thank you," and "you’re welcome." No matter how raunchy the situation, politeness shows that you respect your partners and value their company, and it makes you look classy. Your positive energy will make them trust you more and grow more open to trying new and exciting things with you.

Acknowledgement: KissMeGoodnight.com

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