Lure him: 10 Sexiest essential oils

When it comes to choosing an intriguing, sexy scent, we’re trading in traditional perfume for essential oils, which have the power to energize and uplift or sooth and create a sense of calm. While there are many different essential oils, that have many different uses, we wanted to find out which ones made us smell – and feel sexiest.


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10 things you should never ask on a first date

There you are, on a dinner date with the attractive cousin of a friend's friend and you would really like to make as good an impression as possible.

But, you've had one too many to calm your frazzled nerves, and you can feel your inhibitions disappearing. But be careful, be very careful. There are things you can ask that would scuttle the entire evening:

So tell me, how much do you earn? What someone else earns is none of your business. At best, the other person will suspect you of trying to get out of paying your share of the meal. At worst, the other person will suspect that you are looking for a meal ticket for life.

So why is someone like you single? There is no answer to this as it isn't really a compliment. What do you mean? What's wrong with you that I haven't noticed yet, but everyone else has? It merely puts your date on the defensive as the only other answer, namely, "I'm single, because I want to be", puts an end to all hopes for the evening.

Have you ever tried drugs? There is no answer to this that won't cause discomfort. If the answer is yes, you will want to know what, where and with whom. And it's really none of your business. If the answer is no, you may suspect your date of being less than truthful, even if it were true. And anyway, why are you asking the question in the first place?

What do you think of pornography? This is too personal a question at this stage and will put people on the defensive. Worst case scenario is that they will think you are into porn and somehow want to involve them too. This may be a turn-on for the one in hundred date, but it will make people, who are the types you could take home to mother, run fast and furious.

Do little kids drive you nuts, too? Not only may they have gone on this date because they're keen to start a family, the person may already have children of their own from a previous relationship or marriage. Bang go your chances for a second date.

So how big is the place you're living in? Alarm bells will ring, as it sounds as if you are keen to move in as soon as possible. So why is your life so disorganised that you don't have a place of your own? Or do you go on dates, because you're looking for accommodation?

So why didn't your last relationship work? You're making it sound as if it is somehow their fault and you're making the other person feel like failure. And anyway, do you feel like listening to a whole tragic synopsis of their previous effort at a long term relationship? You're out on a date, you're not impersonating the Wailing Wall, remember?

Don't you think online dating is really weird? You don't know enough about this person to know whether they have their profile posted on three different dating sites. You may just have put an end to a possibly enjoyable evening.

Don't you just loathe cats? You may have the regional chairperson of the local chapter of the Friends of the Cat society sitting opposite you. In fact there may be three felines snuggling up to this person every night. And you've just put your foot in your mouth.

Aren't you going to eat that? Eating from someone else's plate is not something one does on a first date. Even if they only got halfway with their chocolate mousse, don't ask if you can finish it. It makes you look greedy and cheap.

Do you usually drink this much? This is a direct criticism and could put a swift end to your date. It makes you sound condemnatory and prescriptive. So, don't comment on someone else's drinking habits, unless you want to put an end to the evening.

 Susan Erasmus, Health24

Prolonging the Passion

Encounters and ideas to help you create a longer sensual experience!

I would imagine just about everyone wants to find ways to increase their sexual ability. Trying different ways to prolong the passion is probably one of the most sought after improvements. Why settle for one session, when you can prolong the experience over several days? To help you in your quest, I've included a few encounters and ideas to help you and your partner create a longer and more satisfying sexual experience. Have fun!

The Karezza Method

For the ultimate prolonged lovemaking session take a few tips from the Karezza (Italian for caress) method. Make love slowly and gently without the end result being an orgasm. The idea is to relax and enjoy instead of suppressing an orgasm. The ultimate goal is to never actually orgasm, except when attempting to conceive a child. An intermediate step some have used is only letting one in three sexual encounters result in an orgasm.

The All Day Tease

The ultimate foreplay involves an entire day of tempting. Your day could consist of a slow, sensuous kiss here, an intimate caress there and before you know it you'll both be involved in a wanton sensual experience. You can also enhance your tease period by sending erotic love letters, sexy voice mail, leaving descriptive pictures or sending a sexy invitation for an encounter later that night.

Fantasy Weekend

Do something indulgent! Unplug the phones, tell your friends and family you'll be away for the weekend, send the kids to sitter if needed, and spend the entire weekend indulging in your every sensual fantasy together. Lover's Hint: A fantasy weekend could also be a perfect opportunity to live out a few sexual fantasies you both may have wanted to try!

Winner Takes All!

You have the time arranged, but you're still not sure how to spend the evening. The solution for this scenario calls for a hot, romantic board game. My personal favorites include SexPlay and Fan The Flames. With each game you compete to have your sensual fantasy acted upon. Although, you'll be having so much fun you may never really know who the winner was!

It's A New World Record

One way to extend your sensual encounters is to see how many times or different places you can engage in lovemaking during a certain period of time. You could try to see how many times in one day, or how many different positions you tried, etc. Keep a log, and when you break a new record, plan a private celebration!

by Jennifer Good

My Beautiful World

Leg Shaving Tips

Shaving is one task that most women hate to deal with. It is something that takes a significant amount of time and with today’s woman being as busy as ever, there is simply not enough time in the day! Even though it is annoying, there are few women who can comfortably live with hairy legs, at least for more than a week or two. Therefore, you should learn what you can do to make shaving your legs not as bothersome.

Although some women never think twice about how far to shave, there are many women who are in constant wonder about whether they should shave more than an inch above their knees. Most young women rarely worry about shaving above their knees unless they have dark hair growth. Adult women however rarely leave any part of their leg unshaved. It is really a personal preference decision. If you are comfortable leaving your upper leg a bit fuzzy, then by all means, you have the right to do so. Once you do begin shaving the upper area however, you may find that you are only comfortable when your entire leg is hair-free.

Many women determine how much of their legs they shave by the weather. If they are planning on wearing a short skirt, bathing suit, or shorts, they will shave their entire leg. However, in the winter season they may forgo shaving altogether. Single women who date are much more likely to shave their entire legs everyday. Married women are more likely to skip a day or only shave the parts of their legs that are visible to the general public.

After deciding exactly what you are going to shave and what you will leave for later, there are a few things that you should do to make sure shaving is a comfortable experience. The most important thing you can do is to use a fresh razor. Razors can be used more than once, obviously, however you should certainly change your razor at least once a week. Disposable razors are different and should be tossed daily.

With a fresh razor in hand, you should lather up with a good shaving agent. You can use a shaving gel, cream, or lotion. Try the female versions of shaving products, as they are usually a bit more sensitive. However, in a pinch, you can certainly reach for your man’s cream. Another great item to use to help you in shaving is hair conditioner. It works just like shaving lotion and can help moisturize your legs during and after you shave. Try not to use soap as this will only dry out your legs and makes shaving uncomfortable.

Even though you are likely rushed to get in and out of the shower, be sure to take your time when you shave. The more time and effort you take, the better your shave will be. You will have a smoother shave with less nicks and rashes if you shave slowly. So, try to slow it down a bit. Saving your shaving routine for last when in the shower is also a good idea. By allowing your hair to soften from washing and the heat of the water, you will find shaving to be more soothing than stressful.

What you do to your legs after exiting the shower is almost as important as what you do when you are in the shower. Never leave shaved legs dry and without moisture. Most women can lather on body lotion right after shaving, but some may find this irritating to their legs. If you find yourself in an irritating situation, consider skipping your shaving routine for a few days. After your irritation heals, try using baby oil right on your legs after shaving. Almost everyone can use this without irritation. It is a bit messier, but it will provide everything you need for a comfortable shave.

Getting a clean and non-irritating leg shave can mean putting a little more effort into the routine then you may expect. However, these tips are not so time consuming that you will notice a big difference in your morning schedule. They are mostly things that you can start making habits, which will ultimately take no more time for you to accomplish than your normal routine. So, start shaving smart today and you will see the results in no time!

My Beautiful World

Relax the Sensual Way with a Hot Bath for Two

My dream bathroom is a far cry from what we have at our house now. We have a tiny bathtub that refuses to hold water. I am planning my dream home and the bathroom includes the largest, soaking whirlpool tub that we could possibly purchase! 

I would love to drop our boys off with grandma and grandpa while my husband is at home preparing the bath. I would tell him not to light too many candles. Two or three is enough to keep the tub romantically lit.

Soaking in Warm Water with Jets

Warm water with lots of jets is key to soothing your tired aching muscles and bubbles are essential. Not only can bubbles lightly scent your bath they give you something to play with, other than each other!

Have a Bath Pillow

A bath pillow will help cushion your head as you relax with one another. Nothing is more uncomfortable than resting your head on the hard surface of your tub. If you don’t have a pillow then resting in the arms of your lover works well too!

Love and Drinks

At our home we don’t drink wine but I love sparkling grape juice. I would make sure my lover had a bottle and two glasses sitting next to the tub. It would be slightly chilled but not too cold to offset the warmth of the water. Make sure you have some sweets on hand, such as a good box of chocolates, or some strawberries just in case you get hungry and don’t want to leave the tub.

Coming Home to a Hot Bath

Coming home I would slip out of my clothes and slip into the tub. When my lover joins me I would treat him to a massage because my bath would be perfect.

The warm water would spill over us as we touched each other, exploring each other through the bubbles. When we make love, it would be slow and gentle and very romantic. 

After making love in the tub we would move the romance to the shower where we would wash off the bubbles and gently caress each other. After drying each other off I would lead my lover to the bedroom, close the door and fall asleep!

by Lisa Hayes